Loving Perspectives

Forgiveness

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A friend asked me to write a post about forgiveness. I’m not sure she’s going to like this one though. I quietly hold strong beliefs on forgiveness. They may not be popular. As we all do, I know people who have been harmed, even assaulted, sexually abused and traumatized. Certainly justice should be done. Laws and rules to keep us safe must draw lines between what is acceptable and not. Some lost souls need treatment, medication or incarceration to not continue hurting others.

But in these big things and in the small things in our relationships, I find that our own judging and labeling what or who is right and wrong impedes our own growth and dampens our happiness. We are all on a path of evolution and learning (over the course of this and perhaps many lifetimes), at different stages, with varying experiences, obstacles and perspectives.

My job is to look at myselfto see my shadows and shortcomings (even if they are being shown by the mirror of another), to raise my capacity to Love, and keep clear my channels for Divine Guidance in how I may serve the world. Demonizing or “other-izing” anyone else doesn’t help, and holding a grudge is toxic. The only option then, is forgiveness.

If we each do this individually, we will grow collectively… as a society, as a nation, then as a race, a world and a Universe. As John Lennon said, Imagine.

Anyway, here’s what I have to say on the topic:

 

Forgiveness
 
can be seeing that when another is not acting with love, they are acting from fear
 
can be aided by admitting our own fallibility and capacity for transgression
 
can be to know that another’s sickness or confusion of head, heart or Soul was never personal against us
 
can be realizing that we had expectations of someone, which we placed without regard for who they truly are and their human-ness
 
is to care for ourselves, to heal our wounds, to move forward freely, which may mean to leave behind people and places or create boundaries in relationships, to seek justice where appropriate, and to help others… but not to hold the poison of resentment in our being
 
is, mostly, surrendering our illusion that we had the authority to be the judge of another person to begin with

 

 

 

8 thoughts on “Forgiveness”

  1. Totally with you on this. And the term “forgiven but not forgotten” often irks me because it’s still said with malice in the heart. Of course a terrible act is hard to forget, but to state it that way doesn’t sound like my vision of forgiveness. But there I go labeling that as the “wrong” way to go about it. Ahhh, so complicated. 🙂

    1. Ahh, Liv! Funny. lots of that happens…when we judge judgement, can’t tolerate intolerance… Oh well. We do our best. Love ya!

  2. Thank you Lisa, for sticking your neck out and pushing all of your readers to consider the possibility of a deeper truth and a need for more growth.
    It is an ‘ah ha’ moment for me every time I realize my certainty is nothing more than a need for loving rescue from my victim state.
    If it is true that only love is real, what do we do with our wounds except let them heal – making us into our stronger selves. Love!!

  3. If I hadn’t wanted to hear your pure, unadulterated truth, I would not have asked you to share it. I knew it would be something I needed to hear, however much I didn’t really want to hear it. I still wish for justice, but I know I need to let go. Thanks for fleshing out all the reasons to do so. Love you so much.

    1. Love. The Universe always serves up justice, often in the form of learning, in this or another lifetime. xo

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